For the sake of peace, follow this advice from my elder. Do not give someone else more of your own than you are prepared to lose. For example, if I have some truly EXTRA cash or a savings, I may give you some in your need. But if it is my rent money, I do not have THAT to give, because that I cannot afford to lose. I found that when I moved from giving anything to anyone at any time to giving what I could afford to lose when I could afford to lose it, I would not worry as much about it when and if it did not return as promised. I found more peace and felt less of an impulse for revenge and vengeance. If we practiced more of this simple logic, then we could avoid a lot of unnecessary conflict.